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Matt Tomporowski's avatar

I enjoyed reading this chapter. I liked how you start with the simple reference most people will get (the Hokey Pokey), elaborate on it, and then circle back on it to wrap up the chapter. It makes the ending feel very satisfying.

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Teyani Whitman's avatar

Thanks Matt.

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Teyani Whitman's avatar

I hope so too Chris. Thanks for all you shared. I also believe that the only person’s happiness we are responsible for is our own. Oscar Wilde once said “Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.”

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Chris Radford's avatar

As a child of divorced parents and grandparents, just the word 'relationship' invokes anxiety for me. I am the 'lost generation, the Jones Generation' - in between the Baby Boomers and the next generation (I think it is Gen X?). I love my children, Jesus and my pets unconditionally but having tried marriage 4x and the last man killed himself prior to marriage- I am missing the whole relationship thing all together.

Just thinking about your recommendations - what would I want - was immediately converted in my mind to the thought 'what does he need' and 'need' is very unattractive to me because I've tried so hard to be what others have needed me to be when their expectations were unrealistic (I cannot be responsible for someone else's happiness).

I do envy relationships that have built a 'happy life' together (although I think those people are few and far between). I am interested to see if you may unlock something for me that may help me in any future relationship opportunities.

Thank you, Chris

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