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Dee Rambeau's avatar

“I’ve known many folks who were in unhappy relationships. Some people choose to remain in bad relationships so they didn’t have to be alone.”

So true friend. My history shows that I’ve never had that compulsion though I understand it’s very real. 😂

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Teyani Whitman's avatar

Me either Dee. I don’t suffer fools easily.

And now? You’ve got the best❣️ so worth being persistent in waiting for

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Dee Rambeau's avatar

🙏☺️

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Patrick Muindi's avatar

We should be complete, and we should accept company only if it adds to us.

Some people don't want to do the work that will make them complete. As a result, anything is acceptable, not because it's good, but because it's better than what they can give themselves.

We attract what we're worth, and this rises as we become people who can enjoy our solitude. Two are better than one, but only if the addition is not a disguised subtraction.

Thank you for this wonderful essay, my friend.

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Teyani Whitman's avatar

I like that…”only if addition is not a disguised subtraction”.

You are so correct, my friend.

I feel sorry for those who have been so emotionally battered by others and/or themselves that they have forgotten their value.

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Sarah Bush's avatar

While I am happily married for 30+ years, I also think it's strange that society seems to only imagine living as a couple or living alone. What about living with a friend (or two)?

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Teyani Whitman's avatar

Absolutely! I’ve had adult friends share my home several times throughout the years- and I would do this again if need be (either their need or mine)

I enjoy my solitude too much to give it up completely (unless it was with another happily solo person).

I’ve also found it incredibly strange that folks believe living as a couple is the only route to happiness.

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